In the thirty plus years Sharon and I have known each other (Note from Sharon: holy crap, it HAS been that long!), we’ve traveled together a lot. We’ve learned several tips and tricks along the way, many of which we’ve shared here, that have made our travels easier and much more enjoyable. Of all the things I’ve learned, there’s one question that’s helped us more than anything else. I’ve been doing this for longer than I’ve known Sharon and it’s helped me find some of the most amazing places we’ve ever gone to eat. To give proper credit, I have my father to thank for coming up with the question.
The more I’ve thought about the question over the years, the more brilliant it becomes. When I was younger, it was just something my dad said to hotel concierges, but now that I’ve been using it for decades, I can see the subtle elegance it conveys.
I was sixteen or so when I heard my dad ask the question for the first time. We stayed at the Hyatt Tampa Bay (now the Grand Hyatt) and were looking to splurge for a celebratory dinner. We walked to the concierge desk (a hotel with a concierge was a special treat for us since we were used to staying at places we found in the Entertainment Book) and asked where’s a nice place to have dinner. The concierge looked us over (parents in their mid-40s with a teenage son) and asked what type of food we liked. A perfectly understandable query since he was trying to suit his answer to our tastes. That’s when my dad said the words that would change my life.
The Question
“If you only had one night in town and could eat wherever you wanted, where would you go?”
It’s brilliant. It takes the pressure off the concierge to try to figure out what YOU want and lets the person bring down their guard and hopefully tell you the place THEY really like. By saying you only have one night, it needs to be a place you’d be upset if you missed it and saying they can go wherever they want takes the price out of the decision. Of course, the location they tell you about might not be the fanciest place or the city’s hot spot, but there’s something about the place that they like, and that’s what we wanted – something different. Something original that we couldn’t get at home.
Know where the concierge told us to go? Bern’s Steak House.
I can’t believe I’m sharing this picture, but here is photographic evidence of our visit in 1989. Thank goodness we brought jackets with us on the trip (I was in Tampa to receive the YABA Youth Leader of the Year award, thus the celebratory dinner) (Note from Sharon: YABA stands for Young American Bowling Alliance. ‘Cuz Joe is a REALLY good bowler, with three 300 games under his belt. He doesn’t do it nearly as much now, but he’s been bowling since he was 5).
My dad continued to use this question when we traveled. We visited some beautiful places, but I didn’t realize the power of “The Question” until Sharon and I started to travel on our own.
When We Started Using The Question
I had honestly forgotten about it because the internet made it so much easier to find places to eat when traveling. Even before sites like Yelp! and Tripadvisor, you could do a Dogpile search of restaurants in the town you were visiting and spend hours searching through websites until you saw something that looked good. Not the best use of time on vacation, I know.
It wasn’t until we were on an Adventures by Disney trip and had a night free in Sedona, AZ, that I remembered the question. After our group travels for the day, our awesome guides said that we were on our own for dinner and they could offer suggestions if we so desired. I hung back and listened to their recommendations to the other people on our tour before asking where we should go to eat. It was when one of our guides asked, “What do you like?” that the question popped back into my head.
“Since you’re here often, if you only have one night in town, where would you go to eat?” Our guide asked, “Do you like Italian?” I responded, “I do if it’s good.” Without hesitation, he told us to go to Dahl and DiLuca. I asked why he didn’t recommend it to the other guests, and he said, “When people are in Sedona, they don’t want to eat Italian. If I don’t recommend a steak place, they’re usually disappointed.”
Before leaving for dinner, the hotel concierge called our room, supposedly to offer help with dinner plans but more likely to drum up business for the hotel’s restaurant. I politely told him we already had reservations for the night. He asked where, and when I told him we were going to Dahl and DiLuca, he said, “Oh, you’re fine. Have a wonderful dinner; I know you will.”
How do I know that this was a good place? When we were leaving the restaurant that night, we ran into our tour guides, who were arriving to eat dinner (after they were sure that the tour group was situated for the evening). You guys, it was awesome enough that we made plans to revisit Sedona so that we could eat there again.
It Works Even Better Overseas
I’ve used the question several times since then. On a trip to London, we stayed at the Great Northern Hotel near King’s Cross Station. The front desk was really trying to help us find somewhere to eat, but their British politeness kept getting in the way. I finally just asked, “Where do you like to eat that’s nearby?”
That broke the ice, and we suddenly had five different suggestions and reasons why they liked each one. Perfect! We ended up going to a fantastic Greek restaurant which has unfortunately closed since our visit.
I’ve found that I haven’t needed to use the question as much as I used to. The first reason is that we often visit with friends or family when traveling and we usually leave it to them to pick a place for us to go. That’s how we ended up having Chinese food at National Harbor when in Washington, D.C. The second reason is because of our readers. If we need suggestions for where to go in a city, all we need to do is ask, and we have a list of places to check out. That’s what we did when we went to Chicago and to Las Vegas.
Every time I forget about the power of this one question, a situation usually comes up where it is the perfect thing to ask.
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